OH NO!!! ONLY 2 WEEKS LEFT OF XANGA PREMIUM!!
It's cool though. I don't update that much. David gave me his skates today and they are heavier than a whale. It took me an hour to lock onto ONE handrail and only doing a soul on it. Whatever...the new ones are coming tomorrow.
Speaking of tomorrow, going to see the girls and yeah. Should be good, but I'm a bit nervous.
And an update on names:
Sami: Elmo
Oh...and something from her Xanga:
"Just some thoughts I had…
I’ve always noticed the truth in that saying “Birds of a feather flock together” and whatnot and whatnot. And I’m gonna be blunt:
I THINK IT IS THE STUPIDEST IDEA BY FAR.
Although there’s probably some weird, underlying, psychological REASON why certain people just attract to one another & develop relationships, it’s certainly not that innocent. There’s a lot of mentality, a lot of psychology behind cliques and groups and the reasons why people do the things they do. Including why they think the way they think and act the way they act.
For a really long time I didn’t post my user picture on my xanga, and that wasn’t by any means uninentional. I didn’t want people to be able to see me & then judge whether or not to comment, to post on my chatterbox, to subscribe to me, etc. etc. Pictures are worth a thousand words. People usually see my picture & assume im a bitch, a ditz, a million other things that I don’t even feel like getting into. But that’s life & people judge but…the question is…WHY do people judge?
There’s relevance in all this nonsense:
I’ve noticed with everyone I know that they tend to group up based on similarities & never differences. They find little groups. They pick a leader. They follow the leader, and similar to the elementary school game…they do follow that leader. The clique queen/king says “don’t do that” & they honestly won’t do it. WHO TOLD YOU TO FOLLOW THAT PERSON? How are they superior? Aesthetically? Athletically? Academically? Sorry to be blunt but….who GIVES a fuck in the long run?
Don’t you hold yourself worthy enough to make your own decisions rather than having them made for you?
Why are you just blindly following & who told you that you even need a group?
These ideas were taught to you, you didn’t form them yourself.
It’s a common mentality.
Think about it.
Way back in those days before insecurity
Before people looked you up and down
And even before the opposite sex rated you,
picked you apart,
and said whether or not you’re “hot”
you were worth something.
You still are worth something.
Don’t group up. Don’t be a follower.
If anything, be a floater.
But even better, be a leader.
I guess what caused me to want to write this was that today, when driving home from school, I saw my friend who lives across the street from ND holding his skateboard walking into his house. And so many people would consider him poor & low income etc. etc. He’s so much more than that. And when I tell people that I do have a friend who lives in the “ghetto” or “barrio” or whatever the fuck they feel like labeling it, it’s almost like they don’t want to recognize that he is a person & has good qualities. In fact, he’s one of the nicest boys I have ever know & even my parents think he has excellent manners, better manners than any other boy I know.
I’ve never had a group, never had a clique, and I will openly admit it. I don’t want to either, because I like people of different groups. I like my bi friend Elizabeth, my gay hairstylist.I like people who are 50 or older, or younger than 10. I like “ugly” people, “hot” people, all kinds of people because to me, it doesn’t really matter. It shouldn’t matter to anyone. 3 of my closest friends are in their 20s. None of these people fit into one neat little happy wappy group. I’m proud to admit that. And I’m sure you can admit that too, or atleast I hope you can.
And I wish people for once people could open up and TRY to cast their stupid differences aside, & put aside the stupid things that hold them back from liking one another. I mean, duh you’re never gonna LOVE everyone but atleast HAVE A REASON not to, a legit reason not just “oh they’re ugly” or “oh they have zits”. Don’t stop talking to someone just because you think they’re a goody two shoes. Think about what’s holding you back. Think about your prejudgements. And I know I do it too, we all do it. But maybe, just maybe if I say something about it, it will be more recognized/
Maybe for one day
you won’t feel like you have to follow a group
follow a leader
follow a common idea
and you’ll form your own ideas
form your own groups
& realize what a good person you are
without the clique you feel you need to rely on.
even tho i strongly agree with everything zarina said up there; looking at that in a logical point of view i don`t think that there`s a solution to those problems. if everyone and made an effort to stop groups and stereotypes then it could work but i don`t think that will ever happen. unfortunately, it has become a part of teenagers. i think everyone secretly agrees with zarina but the weird thing is people probably wouldn`t make an effort to not stereotype ppl and not follow the leader. the reason people don`t make an effort is probably cuz i don`t think most people realize what they are doing. everyone has judged another person or felt insecure about themselves, and sadly, i think everyone has tried to change themselves to fit in. even if it`s something minor, everyone does it because the desire to be accepted is a natural part of every person. most people have an image in their minds of the person they want to be like, so instead of being themselves they have to be like that person either phisically or in personality. that person is either a celebrity, or it could be the "leader" of their group or something. i think this problem especially exists in teenagers when we are still kinda finding out who we are.
but even though we can`t stop other people from doing those things we can stop ourselves. so my advice to everyone that reads this...which hopefully is more than i think...is this:
get to know yourself better. don`t try to be somebody else. find things that you are interested in because i found that if you have more interests and hobbies it really develops self esteem. cuz even if u really want to be britney spears [just an example] if u develop ur own interests and become good at something, u feel proud of urself. and it builds self esteem. so try it. try something new. also get to know people before u assume things. cuz even if it seems like what you are doing isn`t a big deal...it is. ur stereotyping them.
ok that`s all." | 
